This is the beginning of a newsletter for men, women and to a degree, their children, who are facing a divorce, in the middle of one or recovering from one.

Each month we will cover the issues that matter. We will have contributions by experts and by those living the issues: the divorcers.

Our mission is to lead you to the resources, to help you to be rational, to survive and to prevail.

We don't believe that the best revenge is to live a poor but, happy life. We don't believe in revenge.

We welcome your letters, articles and ideas for articles.

Clifford Lazar

Editor and Publisher

Alimony can range from a nominal amount to as high as 40% of the bread winner's income. The time can range from three years to life, depending on the length of the marriage and the age and health of the dependent spouse.

For a lot of women living on alimony is living in near poverty. The only thing good about it is that the court stands there to assure that it will keep coming. Women are afraid to remarry for fear of losing that alimony. Some may also like the idea of making that S.O.B. write that check every month.
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Getting From Living Together to Marriage

Divorce Etiquette in the 90's

sisters?

"My Ex's sister is my best friend, but I hate it when my Ex sees my parents."

What do you think is right?

In my divorce negotiations I offered three alternative property splits and told my future ex-spouse she could chose either side of any of the three.

In retrospect I may have been too generous, but at the time it seemed worth it.  The total property involved exceeded $1 million.  The cost of the attorneys was $13,000.

I dated divorcees who hired forensic accountants and spent $500,000 to divide $2.5 million.

I made some mistakes that my divorce attorney did not foresee.  These mistakes showed up years later.  When making any agreement you must be more conservative about your job and business prospects if you will be over 40 in ten years.

I am available to prepare such proposed alternative splits.  Click Splits